Discipline: that dreaded word.
Let's talk about the most hated meaning of this word, which is when we are referring to the correcting of wrong-headed, brain-damaged child-like behavior.
Most people fear this word, because we tend to think we are terrible at it, and we hate punishing our kids. And, man, doesn't it seem never-ending? Like laundry, or dishes? Or cleaning cat litter boxes?
Ask yourself the following question: What is discipline?
A. Torture of oneself or others
B. Acting like little soldiers
C. Washing someone's mouth out with soap.
Did you answer with any of the above?
Perhaps a perspective shift is in order.
The word comes from the latin 'disciplinare' which means to teach, instruct, or educate.
Hmmmmm. You didn't know you were signing up for this when you first laid eyes on your cute little squalling bundle of joy, eh? Yeah, well, it's not easy to build strong, confident children, but THAT job is a heck of a lot easier than repairing broken adults.
Still, sometimes it feels like the blind leading the blind, doesn't it?
Here are my answers to the question, What is discipline?
A. Order that allows for creativity.
B. Rules that protect and preserve.
C. Consequences for actions.
D. Responsibility teaching.
Discipline done for any other reasons, might really only be about parental ego and control.
"The sign of great parenting is not the child's behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent's behavior." ~Andy Smithson
Sometimes we can have done everything right, and still, the child does not learn. So, I propose that the raising and discipline of a child has more to do with the development of the parent as a human being. More an issue of process than product. More about staying calm in chaos.
Truth is that disciplining our kids well takes as much of our discipline as we can muster. Which is the topic of my next post. Self discipline.
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